The Girl Code: 7 Basic Unspoken Rules Every Girl Should Follow

Sunday, September 9, 2018

The Girl Code is a set of unspoken rules that teaches women to treat each other with kindness, love and respect. However, in today's social media and elitist "squad" culture, girls can easily get self-absorbed and selfish. We treat each other as competition when we should really be allies. We often forget how important it is for us girls to stick together, even if the other girl in question is just a random stranger. Wouldn't it be nice to feel at ease, knowing a girl you just met in the bathroom will have your back when needed? Here are the 7 basic unspoken rules every girl should follow.

1.) Always tell a girl if something is going wrong in her outfit.

See a girl go out of the bathroom with her skirt tucked in her underwear? Tell her. Those leggings are totally see through? Let her know. Her boob is out? She has lipstick in her teeth? Smudgy mascara? Say something, but make sure you do so discreetly. You know you'd appreciate the honesty if these  unfortunate things happened to you.

2.) Let a girl know if her boyfriend is cheating.

Girls owe it to other girls to let each other know when their boyfriend is cheating or trying to cheat. If a guy chats you up but his relationship status says "In A Relationship", walk away. Don't try to flirt with him, tell his girlfriend instead. You'll be doing a sister a favor that might just help her dump his cheating ass.

3.) Don't hate. Give compliments and boost each others' confidence instead. 

We always seem to have something negative to say about that girl who's prettier or has nicer things than us. Or maybe about that girl in a happy relationship and a successful career. We even hate on  that girl we don't know who happened to walk by us, wearing a pretty dress. Why do girls rip each other apart? You are aware, more than most people, how crazy this world can get.


Every girl has her own set of insecurities and issues she has to deal with. On top of that, we have to be at the receiving end of harsh criticisms from our own kind. Putting down others will not make you above them. It doesn't work that way.

Like her dress? Ask her where she bought it. Think her make up is on point? Say so. A genuine compliment from a random stranger can boost her self confidence and maybe make her entire day. Don't we want to live in a world where women build each other up instead of ripping each other apart? I thought so. 

4.) Be sympathetic during "that" time of the month.

Haven't we all experienced the panic when our monthly visitor comes knocking and we are caught without feminine napkins or tampons in hand? Maybe you've also tried walking all over the place only to find out you have blood stains in your clothes. Be willing to help a girl out in times of need. Follow this basic girl code rule to avert a possible red day disaster.  

5.) Make sure a drunk girl gets home safe. 

If you see a girl who is too drunk for her own sake and is alone, instead of going judgmental on her, go up to her and make sure she's okay. She is very vulnerable and could easily be taken advantage of. Don't take that chance. Offer to take her home, call her emergency contacts or turn her over to a local police station where she could safely spend the night. This basic girl code rule could possibly end up saving a life.

6.) Help a girl who is being harassed.  

There are a lot of creepy people in the world. Some nights, you unluckily grab their attention and they focus all their efforts on you. You repeatedly say "no" but he won't take that for an answer. Won't it be better if another girl jumped in and backed you up? Definitely! You understand how awful these situations are so when you see a girl being harassed, offer a helping hand and save her. 

7.) If you see a girl crying, be her friend. 

Sometimes, it's better to be alone when we have stuff to cry about while sometimes, it's nice to have someone who would sincerely listen. If you happen to notice that the girl in next table is crying, come up to her and ask a simple "What's Wrong?" or "Are you okay?". Knowing that someone gives a crap would bring much needed positivity in her life. If you can, go out of your way and make time to listen to what she has to say. 


These Basic Girl Code rules should be universally adapted by women. Following the girl code doesn't mean you have to be BFF's with every girl you meet. It simply requires you to look out for all ladies you encounter, doesn't matter whether she's a friend or a stranger. Besides, no one else could understand your situation better than your fellow women. 

In this world that is constantly getting crazier and crazier, it's nice to know that us girls can try to stick together.  


  1. Soooo right!!!
    Every girl shold follow these rules!

  2. Nice and useful post dear!!

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  3. So right about raising each other up instead of gossiping about each other! Thanks for sharing!

  4. Couldn’t love this post any more!!!!!

  5. Such a great post. Thanks for sharing

  6. All of these are so accurate and should always be done but I have had "friends" who did not bother to tell me that I had something in my teeth or that my hair looked crazy. Great article :)

  7. Love this post! We have to be emphatic with each other’s as women. Thanks for it!

  8. Love this! We have to lift one another up!

  9. Nice post! Girl code is definiteltnso important.

  10. Yes! Every girl should follow this!

  11. Girls supportng other girls! I'm tired of all the hate :)


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